Self-care is world-care

Self-care is an obligatory duty of humans. Our life is one of the most precious things in the world and it is a great blessing of our creator. He created is in the best form and all other things around us are for our service. This importance deserves a very good care of our lives, not only physical care but mental and spiritual care as well. By doing this care, we can make our lives from good to best and can improve the lives of people living around us.

Self-care involves many-fold including:

• Physical Well-being:

Our appearance weighs heavily. If our look is tidy, we have proper clothing and haircut, we are careful about our talk and expression, we take care of our health by taking a balanced diet and sleep then we are taking good care of ourselves. Our first impression and the most important one is from our physical appearance, so it should be given its due importance.

• Acceptance and Awareness:

Awareness is crucial, it means awareness of firstly ourselves, then of our surroundings, then of the people around us, of our country and nation and its position in this world and of the world in which we are living. This awareness gives us common sense, makes our personality and develops a better image of ourselves.

• Acceptance:

There must be an acceptance of ourselves and the scenario in which we are living. In this way, we can improve both in a better way. If we are in the condition of non-acceptance, then we will neither be in a position to live in a positive way nor will we be able to improve it. The first step is acceptance of reality.

• Better Priorities and Choices:

We have to make so many choices in our lives regarding our diet we take, school we learn, careers we adopt, jobs we join, our life-partners we have and the community we chose for ourselves. 

Then our priorities can make a difference. If we give more importance to a less important thing or give less importance to an important one, thing, it will affect our lives. So, making healthy choices and priorities is of great value.

• Achievements:

We want to achieve a lot of things in our lives. We must choose positive and high goals in our lives, to achieve. If our aims are not valuable, then definitely our achievements will be accordingly. So, we must fix high-achievement goals for ourselves and then will strive according to them. In this way, we can take good care of ourselves. These must be two-fold; for our worldly desires and for our spiritual purity as well. A good combination of both requires good results.

• Recreation and pleasure: 

Recreation and pleasure are of great importance. If we achieve a lot in our lives, but we are missing pleasure in our lives, then we are leading an incomplete life. So, we must devote some of our time and effort to get happiness and relaxation in our lives. We must do anything that is positive and harmless for others. It will be best if we do something that gives us satisfaction and a sense of relaxation to us and the people around us. It is the demand for good self-care.

Never Give Up

Attitude is a working force, that can increase or decrease the pace and quality of our work. It encourages us to keep on trying and never stop working for our goals. To lead a life that take us from good to best level, this attitude helps us a lot.

There are so many people, who are inconsistent in the way of doing anything. They start one thing at a time, then they switch it off and start something else. In this way, they cannot concentrate on any of their targets. In this way their time and effort both are wasted and they can lose their confidence.

‘Never give up’, is a very positive attitude leading towards success. Usually, these people achieve their aims and targets, in a short period of time. In a short time, they can do a lot of tasks in a given time. It is also true that sometimes, we took a wrong decision then we feel the awkwardness and take a U-tern and start another task, then it is alright. To take a wrong decision and then persist on it will not be a wise act. 

There are so many plus points of adopting the ‘never give up’ attitude. Some are:

1. You will eliminate your fears: 

If we have this attitude, we have to control on our fears and tensions. This attitude gives us a courage and motivation to continue. When at the end of the day, we find our goal, after a long effort, we can feel the true happiness and satisfaction.

2. Opens new doors:

If we achieve one desired thing, this gives us courage to do more challenging things in life. In this way, we can explore new worlds for us.

3. We can accept challenges:

With this attitude, we can become confident and can face every challenge easily. This give you a confidence on our-selves, which is required in every field of life. This attitude will be applied in all fields of life, that is the key to success.

4. It gives us satisfaction:

It gives us a sense of accomplishment and happiness. This sense is crucial to progress in life in a positive way.

5. Ability to face un-for-seen in life:

We have to face sometimes, un-for-seen in our lives. This attitude mostly can help us a lot. It can prepare us for suddenly created issues in our lives. Instead of taking tension, we can deal them, with efficiency and motivation.

All of these can help us a lot in leading an active, satisfied and happy life. In this way, we can improve not only our lives, but we can help out other people in a better way. We can insert this quality in others by presenting our example and by guiding them how to change their way of leading their lives. It can become a continuous virtue that can be valuable for our related ones.

Timings matter a lot

Time is a treasure, who utilizes it in a proper way, is a very wise and lucky person. In our lives, some tasks demand specific timings and after that nothing matters. If one crucial step is taken at the right time, it can create great change and can make our lives from good to best and improve the whole society towards betterment. 

We all have heard the saying “Time waits for no one”. It is very true because no one has the power to stop the clock or slow it down. It will keep moving whether you like it or not. When we lose time, we can never recover it. In this scenario, we must have special care of our time.

Time is wealth and correct timings are more valuable. One task sometimes is important, but the specific time for that task is crucial. If we go to school or our office, after the required time, we have to face penalty in any form. If we take a patient to the hospital, but we are late, then we usually cannot find an effective treatment. If we have to travel by train or plane, we have to reach at the time or before some time, otherwise, we will miss our travel.

If we miss a specific time, we have to pay a lot, sometimes for a very long time. If we miss a marriage proposal or a job opportunity, unduly, sometimes we have to wait for a very long time. We have to take a true decision, at the right time.

Time is one of the most valuable things, because:

1. Time remains always with us and acts as both: a teacher and a healer. With the passage of time, we can get experience and learn a lot, which has no other option. Time also works as a healer. A difficult or painful situation will seem less bad as time passes.

2. Time is the one thing that you can never get back. Once time has gone, it will never return. Time is an asset.

3. Nobody knows how much time they have. People can die at any age and for any reason. So, we take a good care of our life and time as well.

4. Every single thing in the universe is bound to time. Gradually all things start aging and eventually decay as time progresses.

5. We are aware of three stages of time - the past, the present, and the future but the only time we actually have is the present.

Our world is filled with so many distractions that eat up a lot of our time. Smartphones have become so advanced that they command a lot of our attention. You have social media, YouTube, news, and anything else right in the palm of your hand. We feel that we are bound to use them. Those who have self-control and mental maturity, they try to control their time by using it correctly, rather than controlled by these distractions. These people became successful in life and they make their lives better and make their society a better place to live.

Ramadan: A Refresher Course

 Ramadan is a sacred month in Islam. It takes a lot of blessings for the Muslims. It is a month that refreshes Islamic teachings, which we usually forget in our lives due to our business and worldly desires. This Holly month reminds us of those Islamic pious traditions and blessings. So, we must make our whole life from good to best by getting all these benefits this month.

 

In fact, the month of Ramadan is just like a refresher course for us. It takes us back to the core Muslim traits from which we may have deviated during the rest of the year. It revives our five-time prayers, our optional prayers, our feelings for those who cannot afford all these blessings we have and our piousness during this holy month. If we do all these good deeds only in Ramadan and forget all these good activities after it, then this month will lose its effectiveness.

 

It also revives our golden family traditions as well. In the times of sehar and aftaar, all family members are together. In this way, we can have a good time with our loved ones. We can share our problems and happy events with our family in a better way. It is definitely a great blessing of Ramadan, especially for those families who could not spend their experiences with each other.

 

It decreases the gap between the people and their creator. When, for the sake of Allah the Almighty, we control our eligible desires, we come closer to Him. This practice for thirty consecutive days may change our usual daily routines in a positive direction. It may be the aim of this sacred month.

If we lead this month in a very good way and after that, we forget this holly routine after the advent of Eid Moon. In this way, the effectiveness of this month may be decreased. So, if we celebrate our Eid with full Islamic traditions and also continue our previous good Islamic rules. In this way, we can lead not only Ramadan but our whole life in an effective way.

Effects of Covid-19 on Society

 Society is in a state of continuous change and is in the effects of Covid-19 on Society. It is affected by a lot of factors including economic circumstances, natural disasters, and epidemics. Sometimes these effects become so excessive that change their basic structure like a recent epidemic through which we are passing “Covid-19”. Its impact on our lives is so drastic that restricts to make our lives to become good to best. 

This pandemic has very serious effects on the lives of people as a whole. First and foremost, among these is that many people have to lose their lives, which is an irreversible thing. Many loved ones are lost somewhere due to Covid-19. How this loss affected our lives, can be imagined if we can listen to the horrible stories of the affected families.

 

We all know that Covid-19 has changed our economic structure. People have lost their jobs due to the restrictions placed by governments all over the world. In the developed countries, affected people are provided with the maximum part of their lost salaries but what about the people living in the developing areas. They had to face the worst economic setbacks. They have to depend on their savings if any or they have to compromise on different necessities.

 

Like other fields of life, our educational system is affected a lot. Our schools remain closed for so many months successively. The management has to continue the system online. This is considered the best choice and provided an opportunity. At the same time, it can create a lot of problems. The level of understanding is compromised, teachers have to face many issues in contacting all students, so, so many students are discouraged. These all facilities are there for privileged students only, who have the facility of internet. Our vast majority belonging to rural areas are not having these luxuries. Working parents have to face extra problems in handling their children.

 

A social dilemma is also there. So many people have to stay home due to joblessness. This can result in both ways, negative or positive. On the negative side, husband and wife, along with their children have to stay at home. In the conditions of economic and psychological stress, they have to face so many clashes, which disturbs the whole scenario. The ratio of the breakage of marriages is uplifted.

 

The psychological impact of Covid-19 is of the greatest importance. All people have to face an immense psychological pressure, in the case of Covid-19 affecting their families or not. This fear is affecting day to day mode of behaving, dealing with usual fearful circumstances and the specific negative situation. Tension, depression and anxiety, all are the resulting symptoms. These resulted in many other social issues.

 

Behind these unusual and uncontrollable conditions of Covid-19, we are not in the position to stop it. We can only take good care of ourselves and the people around us.  We can act upon the precocious activities suggested by the management. We can also pray for the betterment of the conditions. One thing more can be done, is to see the situation from a broader perspective and break the circle of ‘ourselves’ and try to help out those who are in more difficult conditions, like our doctors, para-medical staff and social workers are doing. In this way, we can create some positive change in our prevalent scenario.

The Magic of Sorry

 The word “Sorry” is a small word but it is extremely effective. The giants of misbehaves can be managed with a small Sorry. It does not mean that we adopt this as a habit, but if we do something negative, we can apologize to make our’ and others’ lives easier and we can make these from good to best and this is the magic of sorry.

 

In our lives, we do some acts or show an attitude that hurts others. Many times, we realize its negativity but do not admit our mistake by saying sorry. In this way, we harm our own self-image on one hand and we also make our relations somewhat weaker. If we say sorry, at the right time, it may result in a positive way and can save our relations.

 

If we adopt this tradition of saying sorry as a habit and then again doing the same mistakes, it will not be fruitful. Sorry means feel bad about what had happened and then decide not to do the same in future. In this way, we get the maximum of its positives.

 

The attitude of others around us is of great value. If we are appreciated and respected, it will be easy for all the people around us to behave in the desired way of admitting our mistakes.

 

In the usual conditions of our daily lives, sorry is effective but it can do miracles in critical situations. Some people forgive even crimes after listening sorry, from the opposite side. It is a common practice that sorry can decrease the level of negativity.

 

It is true, sometimes we feel it difficult to accept our mistake. It may seem humiliating, but if we say this small word, we will be able to resolve big issues. If we hesitate to apologize, then there can be a regret of not saying sorry. After passing that time, the value of sorry is lost.

 

It is well said by someone, “The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.” The first position in certain deeds matters a lot. After passing the crucial time, the best kind of action is deprecated. We must take full benefit of our good actions, to have the best results.

 

After saying sorry, if we explain the cause of our wrong attitude or a mistaken act, the effects must be stronger of this word. In this way, the impact of sorry will be long lasting.

 

It is also observed that with the sorry, we can make a good account in the heart of others. This account can be flourished by doing more positive acts. The actions after that word will weigh more due to the strong impact on your personality.

 

Another quality that is required is forgiveness. If someone says sorry but the recipient does not accept it, then the issue is not resolved. As human beings, we all do mistakes. So, if we accept others' sorry, then the results may be positive. It is a great virtue to say sorry and it is also a great virtue to forgive. If we have both, we can contribute to a healthy and happy life. Thus it would be better to say forgiven and forgotten. Stay happy and blessed.

Negativity of Jealousy

 Feelings of jealousy and feelings of desire to achieve some ones’ better position are related feelings but are not the same. Negativity of jealousy feelings are not positive, so we must travel from good to best.

 

Jealousy is one of negative qualities or attitudes like a lie, cheating and bribery. The negativity of these feelings is obvious. These create troubles not only for the people but for the whole society. The balance of human life is disturbed due to them. These negative attitudes create feelings of restlessness and resentment on the part of the person having them. On the other hand, the sufferings these people create for them from whom they are jealous. These can destroy our relationships as well.

 

Jealousy means feelings of resentment and anger towards someone when he got something better than you. These feelings will lead to doing something negative to achieve that desired thing. It can be some act undesirable or illegal, or by creating something negative with the targeted people. Both of these things are obviously negative. These feelings can be natural but undesirable. So, we have to struggle to control these ones by doing some steps. These steps can be hard but will benefit in the end:

1. The first step is to recognize these feelings. It is not necessary at all to tell others about them.
2. The second step can be to justify the others’ position and feelings of acceptance.
3. Then try to analyze your shortcomings and flows. In this way, we can improve our own condition. Some changes can be made in ourselves to improve our performance. This will be a positive reaction.
4. Do not compare yourself with others. All have different characteristics, negative and positive. No one can have all the good ones and nobody can have anything from them. So, we must satisfy ourselves, whatever we have.
5. It does not mean that we must give up. We must do every positive struggle to achieve our goals. We must be persistent to have them.
6. Jealousy creates feelings of burning but positive competition creates feelings of competition and achievement. We must have a positive competition in our lives, not by pushing others but by pulling ourselves ahead.
7. We must also be contained in whatever we have. It will create a feeling of relaxation and goodness which will help us to lead a positive and peaceful life.

In a society free from jealousy, it will be a progressive one. Due to that negative feeling, many kinds of moral crimes will be there. People feel bad about others' success. Then they try to pull their legs by hook or crook. In families, people do harmful things with the people, to whom they are jealous. This will destroy the peace of family life and ultimately the social life. It is a huge loss, we cannot afford it. Stay calm and positive.