Empathy: An Essential Quality of Life

 Life is a big challenge for us. So many qualities are required for a successful life like pray, hard work, love, patience, consistency and being empathetic. Empathy: An Essential Quality of Life, means trying to feel by placing oneself into another’s place. It really helps us in making our lives from good to best.

 

Life is a big blessing of our creator. It is very precious and it has no replacement anywhere. So we must take care of it by doing some efforts and struggling consciously. It can be done by making our lives better by doing efforts in a positive direction. Another way to have a good life is by making others’ lives better.

 

In our society, we see people are facing so many problems. Some of these are due to economic problems or by health issues or due to natural disasters or by other’s attitudes. The issues we face due to natural disasters are problematic for us and disturb us a lot. With the passage of time, usually, we adjust with it. But, if our sufferings are due to other people’s attitudes and acts, then it will be more difficult for us to accept it.

 

So, it will be very beneficial for us to take care of our attitudes with others. If we can develop the quality of empathy in us, we will be in a better position not only to understand others feelings, we also can revise our life strategies. Empathy really works on a positive side. Research has shown that empathy makes people better managers and workers, and better family members and friends. It creates feelings of closeness with the people around us. We can better understand others’ scenarios and in this way, we can understand their feelings. This will help us to behave in a better and more positive way.

 

It is a fact that all people are not alike in having an empathic nature. Some people are more naturally empathetic than others. It includes three parts: the emotional centre perceives the feelings of others and the cognitive centre tries to understand why they feel that way and how we can be helpful to them, but there are easy, evidenced-based exercises that anyone can do to increase their empathy.

 

In role-play, an effective therapy used is psychology work on its basis. The patient or client was asked to play the role of the person; with whom he has some issue. In this way, he will be better able to understand the feelings and views of the other person. It will help to resolve the issue in an effective way.

Rights and Responsibilities always go Together

 Rights in a vacuum are nothing and responsibilities are of the same nature. The rights of one are in fact the responsibilities of the others and vice versa. If we are performing our jobs in a good way, we have the opportunity to move in the best direction.

 

It is common to demand our rights first, without thinking of our duties. It is not a logical way of thinking. If we want to see our society, a good one, then we must perform our duties as well. Without supply, there can be no demand.

 

Rights are the rules that help make everyone equal. When we are born we have some rights. These are basic human rights because every person has them. These rights in fact are the responsibilities of others and others rights are our responsibilities. Being a responsible human being means you care about other people's rights. 

 

The rights of a person are the responsibilities of someone else. If the right of a child to be cared for by his parents and the others important for him. Then, this care and love will pose a responsibility to respect, to obey and to care about those who cared for him. This is a very beautiful relationship where no governmental rules are usually required. It is a system of love that makes us responsible to care for our loved ones.

 

All other relations of rights and responsibilities are also there, which we must care about as humans. These include the rights of a student and the responsibilities as a student. The rights of a student are the responsibilities of his teachers. If teachers are responsible to provide good care of their students by providing them with good learning experiences, providing them with opportunities to learn and experience new knowledge. On the other hand, the student will be responsible to give a good response to the teachers, giving good respect to them by obeying them and performing well.

 

The first and foremost are the rights and responsibilities are between children and their parents. The rights of children are of the most important, in the whole relations around us. If children are not given their rights, they cannot survive. The right of nourishment they require for their lives, the right of safety from hot and cold, the right of basic training toilet and learning training. Without these hard pieces of training, a person cannot have a good life at all. But these all rights pose a big responsibility on them as well. They are supposed to give a positive and valuable response. They are required to respect their parents and elders. They must work hard to do well in their studies and other obligations. These good relations make the family and the community life a strong base for a healthy society.

 

There is a list of these mutual relations along with the discussed earlier:  between wife and husband, the employers and the employees, the administrator and the public and between the neighbours too. These all are mutual responsibility based relations. A balanced approach must be there, to make these relations positive and fruitful. In a progressive society, an easygoing and encouraging combination of rights and responsibilities is a must. A satisfied and happy society is an ideal one.

Plan your Day and Life

 Life is very precious and it is going on slowly and unknowingly. So, you have to plan your day and life, to get more from less time & to travel from good to best.

An unplanned work or job or day or life is definitely different from a planned one. With planning, we can make a priority list, what will be done first, then on the second number, and so on. This way we can complete our daily tasks in time. We also can have an idea, maybe it would a rough one, about the time it will take, the issues that you will face, to some extent, and the things and institutions you will require. This planning will help you out and will give you a sense of accomplishment. It will be a great blessing indeed.

Many people, very intelligent, with high esteem, sometimes cannot achieve what they deserve. If we see in-depth, somewhere mismanagement of their time will be there. Life is the most precious credit we have. So, we must be very careful and sensitive about it. Whatever we have been given by our creator, we must use it in the best way. We should use the intelligence we have given, our body strengths we have, the money we have, and the relatives we are blessed with, in the best possible way. In this way we can achieve the best results for our assets.

This planning can be done in different ways. It is not necessary to have it in a written form but it is the better one. The latter will be more beneficial in doing self-comparison of different periods of life. In this way, we can manage it more efficiently. 

If we consider the planning of our coming days, it will be the base of our whole life. The day is the basic unit. The time of starting our day, the sequence of different jobs and works, according to their importance is of key importance. In this way, we can manage our lives in a better way and we can also foresee possible hurdles. We can be better able to handle those effectively. 

Planning is helpful not only in the life of individuals but in the life of a family and a country as well. Planning can change the fate of a country. All fields of a country e.g. economics, education, health, defense, or judiciary need effective planning. Good planning can save resources, can generate more resources, and use all these in a better way. Several examples are there of those countries, who develop in a very rapid way and reach a very high level. On the other way round, ill-planning or no planning can destroy a lot.

Ways to Stay Focused

 

Why to stay Focused?

We are living in a world that is so busy and full of many interesting options. As a student or a working person, we have certain main goals or targets from good to best, to achieve & find ways to stay focused. It’s a small attempt to explain.

This challenging world is a conflicting stage for all of us. We have to choose our track with our strength of will. So, focusing on our main goals is a must. How can we do this? It is the main question.

Few possible suggestions are given in this regard:

1. Have a clear look at your goals. If we are clear, we can be more focused to achieve them. If you are younger, then this responsibility will be shifted towards elders around you, most possibly parents. They must be clear and have to provide a suitable environment for their young ones. 
2. We must be aware of the demands of our targets. Keep high but realistic targets before you achieve them. Unrealistic targets can be discouraging. 
3. Try to make a schedule for every day, with the help of elders, or do it yourself. Then try to act upon it strictly. 
4. Schedule the timings for doing your work and assignments and for recreational activities, in a realistic way. 
5. Be very regular and punctual. This quality will help you all your life. Try to finish daily tasks on a daily basis and never leave them pending.
6. If we prepare our lectures beforehand, it will help a lot. We will be in a far better position to understand the materials: we have read before. It is a key to success.
7. Try to limit your screen time. It is detrimental to your eyes, physique, and studies. Prefer outdoor games and exercises to make you healthy and fresh.
8. Don’t depend only on your books. Try to get some extra knowledge. When teachers will examine your work, they will be happy to see some extra information and eventually it will enhance your impression and grades.
9. Try to be positive, optimistic, and realistic. Do not leave your targets unfinished. Try to be persistent to have them.
10. Do every possible and positive effort to get them. Make your canvas of options broader. It will help you to adjust in a better way. It will prevent you from feeling of discouragement.
11. Always start everything with prayer. Be optimistic and confident.

These attractions, if they refresh us for gaining those end aims, are good but if these are acting as hurdles, then these are negative and if these negative activities become our focus, then it is alarming. All these points can be helpful in making our lives more productive and meaningful. There must be some aim in our lives that is meaningful, not only for us but for the betterment of others. It will be a real flavor of our life.

Learning the hard way

 Yes! Learning the hard way. It is true. When you struggle to see what actually you are looking for. This is search and research. Nowadays it is very easy just Google it and a list of websites open up. You see it with examples. This way you will never forget it. 

When we are in school and college. If we go there reading the books beforehand it will be very helpful. The teacher only guides us on what is in it. Take time to read something or anything. Make a habit and read for some time say 15 minutes and then see the result.

Sometimes when you get something new like a mobile phone you start using it. Although it provides a user manual with it. But some people avoid consulting it. They think that they can use it immediately. They start fibbling with the equipment and after some time they get lost. But after some time they start to know what they were trying to get. This will never forget by them and this is known as learning the hard way. On the other hand, if they start using the manual from the beginning although they will learn to use the equipment they will take some time to learn and remember.

There are two schools of thought. One is first you read and learn the use of the equipment. The other is you start using the equipment and learn the way you use it. In both ways, you will learn.

Some time one say why do I need to read the manual? They are never successful. They start blaming the equipment which they were supposed to use. 

Learning the hard way can at times be a more efficient teacher, and letting students struggle before offering guidance may lead to deeper conceptual understanding and the ability to transfer what was learned to new problems.

 

Etiquettes

 Etiquettes are the set of conventional rules of personal behaviour in a society usually in the form of an ethical code, including accepted and expected social behaviours. In making a society from good to best these etiquettes play a vital role.

Etiquettes are different for every field of life, like the family, the social set-up, the job specifications and the religious obligations. These are the rules for acting properly according to the expected norms of that area. These rules make the life of people more managed and accepted.

These are some important etiquettes that can help us lead a managed and happy life.

1 Be thoughtful:

It includes that we should try to do everything purposefully and thoughtfully. Our aimless activities and acts can create problems for us and wastage of time is a compulsion. 

2. Be helpful and cooperative:

It is very important to help people around us, especially those who are in trouble. It will make others relaxed and make us satisfied. It will result in a society that is more peaceful and satisfied.

3. Be cheerful: 

We try to remain relaxed and happy in our general life situations by looking positive side. Most of the things have their pros and cons. If we consider only the cons, we may remain in tension. So, to see cons or at least having a balanced view will create a positive impact. 

Always remain polite with others and speak gently. In this way, we can make others feel good and positive. It will encourage them to do something valuable, not only for them but for society as well. 

4. Don’t be bossy:

If we remain bossy with others and behave authoritatively, it will not only make others unhappy but make the whole atmosphere sad and unpleasant. We should be kind to others in normal conditions. If it is demanded to be somewhat harsh, then we must be within a certain limit and try to create some positive change. In this way, we can act more positively in our surroundings. 

5. Respect others’ views:

To make society peaceful and improving, it is crucial to respect others’ views and acts. If we are thoughtful, it is very much natural to have a difference of opinion. Everybody has the basic right of having a personal mindset. If we feel that there must be some change, we can try but by remaining kind and sincere. 

Etiquettes are the helping tools to run a society. These are different for different aspects of life. In our family, etiquettes are different from the etiquettes in offices or in mosques or in school or in-ground or in market.  Every place has different demands on people. The etiquettes of mosques are different from that of job and etiquettes of the market from that of driving. Success in all fields depends upon taking care of the etiquettes of that field. Those who don’t try to do this, cannot survive. 

The image of a nation depends upon the etiquettes its residents follow. If they follow these specific rules in their lives, they contribute a lot not only to image building but to the progress of their nation. 

Live and let live

 “Live and Let live” is a proverb, it means that a person should live as he or she chooses and let other people do the same. The base of it lies in the fact that we all are human beings having the same kind of nature and having same type of needs and requirements. To make our lives good to best, it is crucial to take this proverb into our consideration.

As human beings, all are equal and have the same rights and needs. So, we must on one hand try to have our own rights, as possible as we can. On the other hand, the rights of others are also having the same importance. The right of one person is the obligation of others. It will not be right to try to have only our rights and ignore the rights of others.

According to one meaning of this proverb is to accept the people as they are and do not try to change them. If we feel that there is some problem in others way of thinking or behaving, we only can advise them very politely and wisely, according to the relation with them. We can change their behaviour by presenting our better example or we can pray for them. No harsh words or action will be allowed. In this way, we can make our surroundings more positive.

This is a broad term, including several branches like:

1. The basic requirement is to work decently and honestly without lying and stealing, not killing or exploiting anyone and not cheating or harming others.
2. It expresses idea the idea that all should be able to live their lives in the manner they want to, regardless of what others may think of them. There will be no unnecessary pressures on people to do certain acts and not to do some others.
3. It is especially related to our attitudes regarding minorities on the basis of religion, language, ethnicity, colour or cast. All have equal rights to act according to their special group of reference.
4. There must be tolerance of others opinions, believes and actions. If we don’t like it, and usually we don’t, we must tolerate and accept it. Otherwise, there will be no peace and harmony in society. It will be the responsibility of the administration to ensure this in society.
5. There must be a democratic atmosphere, which requires tolerance and acceptance of all others views and actions. In this way, we will have a better opportunity to know the views and beliefs of the other. In this way, we can compare and can choose the better options for us.
6. It is good to have differences in our society. Imagine a world where all behave in a uniform way. It will look strange and no colour of difference will exist. It is more interesting to live in a world or society, where differences of opinion, attitude, likes and dislikes, behaviours and actions. It will make the world just like a beautiful painting, full of colours, expressions and impressions.
7. In a society, where there is acceptance of others, with the attitude of making it easier for others to live their lives in a better way, with more benefits and facilities. In this way, an ideal social setup will be there. In such a will society, there will be a better opportunity to lead a peaceful, successful and cheerful life. Personal growth, social encouragement and governmental development will be enhanced. This will lead to an ideal situation for all of us.