Speak Gently

What is speaking

“Speak gently”, is apparently a very small quality, but its weightage is pretty high. We speak all day. In our home, we speak, in our schools, colleges we speak, in our professional life, we speak. In fact, we all are speaking beings. It is the superiority of humans over all other creatures. So, we are special, in this way from all others.

Everything in this world has some impact on others. Whatever we do has some effect on our surroundings. Our speech is very valuable, not only for us but for others as well.

Talk Positive

First of all, it is of extreme importance to talk yourself in a positive way. If we pass negative remarks to ourselves, it will damage our own personality and with a damaged personality, how can we talk positively to ourselves or others. For all this, we try to start talking positively to ourselves. This practice will help us a lot in improving our general conversation.

Effect on others

Our talk with others can have a very strong effect on others; in a positive or in a negative way. When we are kind to ourselves, it makes easy for us to be kind to others. We are quick to criticize others when they make a mistake but often omit to praise them when they do something good or right. It passes a very negative impact on others. If we remember more to appreciate others' positive behavior, it will encourage them to repeat that good behavior in the future. So, in this way, we can help that person to adopt more good habits. It is also true that this attitude is not required every time. Sometimes our related ones can make some mistakes. In this case, we have the responsibility to change his/her behavior. We must do it but still in a kind way and in a kind tone. Our harsh words can create irritation and defensive reactions.

Quick on judgment

Our society has trained us to focus more on what goes wrong instead of what goes right. We are quick to point out mistakes made by our life partners, children, friends, and colleagues.  You can balance this negative thinking by deliberately giving some compliments or positive feedback on a daily basis. In this way we can heal our somewhat remarks 

Be nice

Remind yourself to say something nice to someone the moment you reach at work, or before you head home for the day or on the weekend. More importantly, say something nice the moment you reach home to your family after a long time. In this way, you can change your immediate environment with your words.

There are so many examples explaining the good or bad effects of our talk. One glorious example says that during a meeting with some successful people, a minister-level officer asked by a person about his changed life. That person replied that you are that person who changed my whole life. The officer was surprised and could not remember the event. Then that successful person told me that when I was in prison, you visited and after seeing me you said, “You are an intelligent person”. Those remarks changed my self-image and changed my whole life. So, please remember our words can make miracles and are so powerful that they can change the whole scenario. 

Our harsh and discouraging words can also change others' lives but in a negative way. One girl, who was pretty intelligent and smart. Unfortunately, she got bad grades in only one subject on her first examination. All the people around her discouraged her a lot with their words and gestures. As an awful result, her self-image was badly affected her performance for a very long period of time. When she was graduating, again the words of her grandmother encouraged her and she got 1st division. This success restored her confidence. Her later successful life was the evidence of her intelligence that was lost somewhere.

So, being useful and beneficial members of our society, we should be very careful in our daily conversation with others. We should deliberately select positive words, positive remarks, and positive statements to others. In this way, we can make a positive change in our surroundings that can benefit not only others but to ourselves too.