Sometimes The People With The Worst Past, Create The Best Future

“Sometimes the people with the worst past, create the best future” is one of the quotes by Hazrat Umar Ibn Al-Khattab. It means that the time doesn’t remain the same. We must not remain all the time, in the same condition. We can make our lives from good to best, with the help of prayers, effort and hard work.

 

It is observed commonly that the condition of the people doesn’t remain the same. It is variable with respect to the divine will, the strategies the person adopts, the prevalent social conditions and the nature of the person. It is proved true in the case of the originator of this quote. He was a different person altogether, before his acceptance of Islam. He became a totally new person and proved to be a great Muslim leader, afterwards. He proved his quotation word by word.

 

We see these examples all around us. It is observed that the families, who are not well off, worldly or spiritually, became well off in the next generation. What was the history behind this drastic change? They struggled a lot to uplift their condition. They had to face a lot of hardships in their lives to get their desired position.

 

This quotation is true in its original form and it is also proved factual in its revers form, which establishes its truthfulness. There are so many examples of people who belong to well-established families but they could not restore their status. The reasons behind this change can be so many including; the children of these families are enjoying very good economic and social conditions. They did not require to strive for better conditions. With the passage of time, they became habitual of not striving for anything. Then ultimately they lost their desire to strive for betterment. So, in this way, their backward journey started.

 

It is in our own interest to strive for a better position, with respect to spiritual status, economic condition and social set-up. To plan and do a purposeful effort to achieve the desired position, is essential. Devine support is an integral part of this process, so, we have to strive for this ultimate support.

The Best Way To Predict Your Future Is To Create It

“The Best Way to Predict Your Future is to Create it” is a quotation given by Abraham Lincoln, who was a renowned political personality. This quote says that the best way to know what is coming in to be an active participant. By creating your future, you are an active player in creating the events in your future. By knowing what you want to achieve in life can guide and motivate you to act accordingly, to achieve it. In this way, we can make our future life from good to best.

 

Futures are taken as un-for-seen, which is an approach, which is prevalent in common. But a more positive one is future thinking is to strategic design that considers what is likely to change and what is likely to stay the same in the future. It may be more helpful in planning our future life.

 

It is also a fact that “There is no tomorrow to remember if we don't do something today” (Thomas Monson). We must lead our present fully with purpose, encouragement and satisfaction. This will lead towards a secure and better future.

 

Everyone wants a secure life, which means a secure future. We all struggle for it for the majority of our lives. We can make our future better by adopting some simple strategies and by changing our lifestyles like:

1. Have A Positive Attitude:

Positivity in life is always a credit. Having a progressive lifestyle, taking different changes in life with acceptance and plane for the future with prayer and hope can make our future life better than our present.

2. Visualize your desired future:

To have realistic dreams in our lives is a blessing but having dreams is not enough at all. We have to do purposeful struggle with motivation, to have them, in our lives. 

3. Connect with a Life Coach: 

Human support is always valuable in achieving big goals in our lives. Without guidance and motivation, it is usually difficult to achieve anything in life. We have to have some moral support with us, we have to have someone's guidance in difficult situations. 

4. Set Life Goals:

If we want to have a secure future, we must set some goals and then we must plan the necessary steps to make our aim easy to achieve.

5. Be Optimistic in life:

An optimistic attitude is essential. It can work as oxygen for life.

6. Take Responsibility for Your Own Actions: 

If we make others responsible for our miss-happenings, then we cannot improve our lives. We must do whatever we want thoughtfully.

7. Work in a Positive Work Environment:

Our environment is of great importance. In encouraging circumstances, it will be easier to perform in a desirable way.

8. Be Flexible:

One must not be rigid in our life goals. In this way, we will limit our success. We must be flexible in this selection of goals. Wider the canvas, wider the list of opportunities in life. 

9. Take Small Steps Towards Big Goals:

If we have very big aims, we will feel difficult to achieve them. So. It is important to divide our big goals into small goals. In this way, we will be encouraged, which is a key to success.

10. Take Care of Yourself:

In all this process, we must take care of ourselves by taking good care of our health, diet and rest. If we ignore ourselves, we cannot do anything good for ourselves.

It will be very positive to make our lives good with the help of praying, planning, doing good efforts and being positive. This positivity can create positive changes around us.

Well Done Is Better Than Well Said

“Well Done is Better Than Well Said” is a quote by Benjamin Franklin. Well said and well done both are good and positive. Whatever is said well or done well has a good impact not only on the person, who is saying or doing it but also for those who listen or get the benefit of that. It is the fact that it is relatively easy to say something good than to do beneficial work. In both ways, we can make a positive change in our surroundings.

This quote is also explained by Steve Hoffacker that actions speak louder than words. It means that the effects of actions are more powerful than mere words. If actions are strengthened by words, then these have the most powerful effects.

 

Words are effective, but only words are not enough to make a change, good or bad. Actions are required more than mere words. We see sometimes words affect strongly and create drastic changes in people’s lives. Behind many influential social and economic changes, the words of some influential personalities are working. In some other examples, it is proved that only words create no miracle as Steve Hoffacker explains this quote by saying “Actions speak louder than words.” It means that actions are more influential than merely saying something.

 

This quote also says that we can make a change in a better way by doing something rather than only saying it through words. So, to say is an easy task than to do something valuable by our actions.

 

If our words are supported by our actions, these may produce a great change in our surroundings just like our prophets, who say their teachings in an impressive way and they also acted upon these teachings as well. In this way, they change a lot of people in the desired way. The special effect in their case is the special help of our creator.

 

We must adopt the best way of speaking that may affect others in a positive way and we also try to the actions which are also impressive, that can produce a valuable impact.

Safety On Highways

 

Preparing for travel

Every now and then we are hearing about how unsafe our country is becoming. Who is responsible? We or the government. Both. If we are going somewhere, say on a long drive we must be prepared beforehand. Our long journey did not start all of a sudden. We plan and then we start getting prepared for the journey. Someone is managing clothes, another person is looking after the vehicle if it is a journey worthy and if kids are also included they are managing their syllabus books or toys. So everyone is preparing, no matter how small the journey may be, everyone is doing his or her job for the journey.

Preparation by the Government

Not only we but the government is also preparing for our safety, which is their daily job. They are patrolling the roads for the safety of the travellers. Looking after every corner of the transporting mode like roads, motorways and other areas of travelling by car. Someone is looking for road maintenance. Someone is looking for a communication system, someone managing medical assistance and someone for vehicle maintenance. But when safety comes then the culprits also come into the scene. They start looking up for the loopholes where they try to fit in and make their attack.

Safety and Security

As far as the safety on the highways is concerned many of us have heard from our elders that security starts from your house. For the sake of this reason, do not disclose when you are going to start travelling. Where exactly you are going. No need to tell everyone. Only the traveller and the recipient may know. It is also recommended that travelling in the daylight is important. Try to reach the destination before sunset. Even today, some of my friends who are pilots in the Air Force say that on daily practice flying they have to land at the base before sunsets.

Tyres

Now car tyre cutting incidents are taking place on the motorways. Get your car tyres checked before the start of the journey. You must also keep track of your car’s tyres. What date and what was the millage note down and keep it handy. Mostly new and good tyres can give you a mileage of about 50,000 km. Always check the spare tyre if it is worth using in case if a tyre gets punctured during travel.

Pray for the journey

The most important thing which should have come at the top but as mentioned, to do all the best than starting the journey is with the prayer seeking Allah’s help during the journey. He be the helper all the way from start to the end. Always keep your wits with you.

Stay Alert

While going on a long drive it is better to be accompanied at least two should be in the vehicle. And both must be in some light conversation like some sharing some story or some jokes, anything. Or even a song or music playing. This will keep the driver awake and alert. Always wear a seat belt and instead of the driver talking on mobile the passenger should use the mobile or now a days in latest model vehicles mobile phones blue tooth system is available so the driver can talk using a hand-free system.

Taking precautions

While driving, keep on looking for the road safety messages and properly follow them. Especially when going to Islamabad and coming back. Driving in the hilly area should be covered with more caution. After all, it is not all that bad. With all the precautions you are safe. Yes, one thing more keep the motorway police helpline phone number readily available on your mobile phone home screen ready to dial in case of emergency. This is also good. Keep in touch with a family member while driving so that if God forbid something goes wrong you can always seek help. Sometimes the signals are not good enough so it is advised to send an SMS. Always be a good to best driver. Have safety on highways. Have a nice day.

 

Life Contains But Two Tragedies. One Is Not To Get Your Heart’s Desire; The Other Is To Get It

This meaningful quote Life contains but two tragedies: one is not to get your heart’s desire; the other is to get it” is found in the literature with the reference to two great personalities; Socrates and Jorge Burned Shaw, both want to make our lives from good to best. It is very important that an intelligent saying can be stated by different divine personalities.

According to this quote psychology of human desire is two-folded. The process to achieve a goal or desire can lead to unhappiness and maybe dissatisfaction. Yet, attaining an objective can produce an aftermath of uncertainty and lassitude and can be resulted in laziness and lethargy.  In this way, our desires, in the end, became unpleasant for us.

Desires work as a motivator and make it easier to achieve them. Desires can impel us toward positive, life-enhancing experiences.  Without any force, it will be difficult to use our full energies to achieve our aims and desires. Our desires can be positive or negative. If we have noble desires, these can create a positive change in ourselves and all around us.

Our desires, if the true ones are strong enough to impel us to do the meaningful efforts. If it is not so strong, then there can be half-heartedness there. In this way, chances of failure must be there. So, our real desires must have enough pressure on them, which requires having them.

Our desires can be of any kind; worldly or spiritual. Material things will never satisfy the desire; only a serene spirit and a detachment from outcomes will enable us to live peaceably beside the torrent that is our desire.

Another important thing with this reference is that the strategies we use to achieve our desires must be positive and legal. All legitimate steps must be taken in this way. If our desires became our habits then the results will not be desirable. A balanced approach will be required.

To take this quote in a positive sense, it will be more positive to have many desires with us. In our lives, we can have many different and meaningful desires. In this way after achieving one, we will start working on the other one or we can try to achieve more than one desire at a time. In this way, no feelings of hollowness and tragedy will be there. This type of lifestyle is the crux of a divine and positive life.

Civic Sense

1. What is Civic Sense?

Civic Sense - The Sign to a Civilized World. It is the need of the day. Let us make a civilized world. Civic sense makes us human beings. If we are not civilized then what will be the difference between us and animals. Even animals are civilized and I would say they are good and some are best.

2. Choose a leader.

As a group of people, we need to choose one person as a leader. Then follow him whether he is right or wrong. If he is wrong you can give him your opinion with all your knowledge. If he thinks you are right then he might accept it or reject it depends upon him. Some times the leader knows more than you do and under this situation, he is not able to share it with you for some reason. He might be looking from the top. He has a great vision for the plan. So if we follow him we will be civilized and will be one united group otherwise we will be a broken group unorganized and uncivilized. This civics we learn from education.

3. Good use of Education.

Some time education takes us to become an arrogant landlord and in the long run, makes us warrior and we start fighting with weak to acquire them. Here at this moment, civic sense comes in. Why one person is greedy? Greediness is human nature. This is where patience strives. Education and learning make us human being. When we are good and polite everyone likes us. We always give ways to others and care for others. Caring comes from civics. We must learn to care for all that is elder and youngsters. We also have to be good to the animals as well.

4. Adopt a queue system.

Another example of civics is making a queue at a public place. This not only looks good but it really saves time. I had a personal experience. It was such a nice example of civic sense when I was in London in 2003. I wanted to go from Wimbledon to Marble Arch by British rail. At that time I was all alone and went to the ticket machine it was a bit new for me. I started looking at the machine how to use it it took me some time. By somehow I just looked at my back and found there was such a long queue behind me and I got a bit panicked. I apologized. I asked a man at my back to please help me and he helped me in buying the ticket. This is called civics. All the people were watching that I was new and was juggling to get a ticket. No one made a fuss or shouted at me to be quick.

5. Amend yourself.

Sometimes I wonder where are we moving. Is this civilization? I have seen many herds of animals when they are moving they move silently and move in a polite manner they have one leader and some times there is a trained dog which guides them where to go. Why can’t we do this? Whom we are impressing? How do we get out of this stupidity? I am sorry to get a bit harsh but these are my feelings. We have to finish our ego for the sake of others and for the sake of our nation. Just Think.

 

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Speak Gently

What is speaking

“Speak gently”, is apparently a very small quality, but its weightage is pretty high. We speak all day. In our home, we speak, in our schools, colleges we speak, in our professional life, we speak. In fact, we all are speaking beings. It is the superiority of humans over all other creatures. So, we are special, in this way from all others.

Everything in this world has some impact on others. Whatever we do has some effect on our surroundings. Our speech is very valuable, not only for us but for others as well.

Talk Positive

First of all, it is of extreme importance to talk yourself in a positive way. If we pass negative remarks to ourselves, it will damage our own personality and with a damaged personality, how can we talk positively to ourselves or others. For all this, we try to start talking positively to ourselves. This practice will help us a lot in improving our general conversation.

Effect on others

Our talk with others can have a very strong effect on others; in a positive or in a negative way. When we are kind to ourselves, it makes easy for us to be kind to others. We are quick to criticize others when they make a mistake but often omit to praise them when they do something good or right. It passes a very negative impact on others. If we remember more to appreciate others' positive behavior, it will encourage them to repeat that good behavior in the future. So, in this way, we can help that person to adopt more good habits. It is also true that this attitude is not required every time. Sometimes our related ones can make some mistakes. In this case, we have the responsibility to change his/her behavior. We must do it but still in a kind way and in a kind tone. Our harsh words can create irritation and defensive reactions.

Quick on judgment

Our society has trained us to focus more on what goes wrong instead of what goes right. We are quick to point out mistakes made by our life partners, children, friends, and colleagues.  You can balance this negative thinking by deliberately giving some compliments or positive feedback on a daily basis. In this way we can heal our somewhat remarks 

Be nice

Remind yourself to say something nice to someone the moment you reach at work, or before you head home for the day or on the weekend. More importantly, say something nice the moment you reach home to your family after a long time. In this way, you can change your immediate environment with your words.

There are so many examples explaining the good or bad effects of our talk. One glorious example says that during a meeting with some successful people, a minister-level officer asked by a person about his changed life. That person replied that you are that person who changed my whole life. The officer was surprised and could not remember the event. Then that successful person told me that when I was in prison, you visited and after seeing me you said, “You are an intelligent person”. Those remarks changed my self-image and changed my whole life. So, please remember our words can make miracles and are so powerful that they can change the whole scenario. 

Our harsh and discouraging words can also change others' lives but in a negative way. One girl, who was pretty intelligent and smart. Unfortunately, she got bad grades in only one subject on her first examination. All the people around her discouraged her a lot with their words and gestures. As an awful result, her self-image was badly affected her performance for a very long period of time. When she was graduating, again the words of her grandmother encouraged her and she got 1st division. This success restored her confidence. Her later successful life was the evidence of her intelligence that was lost somewhere.

So, being useful and beneficial members of our society, we should be very careful in our daily conversation with others. We should deliberately select positive words, positive remarks, and positive statements to others. In this way, we can make a positive change in our surroundings that can benefit not only others but to ourselves too.