Be Good Parents

Being a parent is a real blessing from Allah. The factual basis of this statement can be understood if we talk to any childless couple. It is an honor to be a parent, but it also poses a responsibility. The bigger the blessing, the higher the responsibility. We can make our lives and the future of our generations from good to best by providing good care and training to our loved ones.

When a girl becomes a mother or a man becomes a father, that age is usually not a mature one. At that age, this responsibility became the toughest one. Now how can we help out our parents by presenting some guidelines:

1. Make our children confident boost their self-esteem: Parents can develop their self-esteem, by using better gestures, language, attitude and body language. We must not compare our children with others, it will damage their personality and feelings of unworthiness. So we must be very careful in using our words.

2. Give your quality time to your children:

For all this, we have to spare our precious time for our children. In this way, you can better understand the personalities of your children, the problems and the happiness of your loved ones. We must fix some quality time with our family; at meal time, at leisure time, and at work time. This will create a loving and caring relationship between parents.

3. Establish some rules and be consistent with them:   

It is also important to establish some rules for all family members, to create uniformity and smoothness. It is also necessary for children to shape their personalities and manage their lives, in an unseen and caring way.

4. Try to listen to your child’s voice: 

It is crucial to listen to your child’s voice, to know him, his problems, desires, fears and aims. It will help us understand them and act according to their special requirements. In this way, we can find out any special issue faced by them 

• Misbehaved by classmates, harassed by people around them, or during travel to school.

• They can be sexually harassed by people around her/him, e.g. relatives, friends or anyone, they have blind faith. So, as a parent, we must be vigilant enough. 

• Some children are financially exploited. Their money was snatched by their more powerful and fearful mates. So, at the same time, they have to lose their money and having fear of disclosing this. Our innocent children have to face this trauma alone and they can develop some psychological ailments as well. So, our careful vigilance is a must. 

• Our children, at a certain age, can face some hormonal changes. We have to have some information about these. To help our children pass this critical period safely. On the other hand, we can leave our children alone to fight with their issues and face critical attitudes from family members and outside the family. Parents must be so careful at this time.

• We must have unconditional acceptance: 

We must love our children unconditionally. In this way, we can own our child, and then we can try to make the necessary corrections. It does not mean to support our children in their faulty behaviours, but to own them for their correctness.

• We must be a good role models for our children:

Children copy their parents’ behaviour more than their sayings. So, we must present good examples for them to follow. For this, we have to have some control over ourselves. We can have some gray areas, so, we must try to practice our bright areas.

Our children are our first and foremost responsibility. We must be very vigilant about them, with love and care. In this way, we can make our lives, and the lives of our children more positive. This goodness will havpositivegood impact on our whole social life.

The Real Beauty of Our Personality

The real beauty of our personality is not the beauty of our face but it is the prettiness of our mind and our attitude. Outer beauty or apparent beauty is not a guarantee of a good personality. For making our lives from good to best, inner beauty is more important than outer one. 

Our personality is the combination of our face, beliefs, mindset, attitudes, and behavior. It is also a fact that we must try to make our appearance looks good because the apparent presentation is also matters. We take good care of our dress, face and our expression because it will help us in leading a good life. But it is not enough to improve our personality.

We must also focus on our conversation, our facial expressions, our body language and behavior. All these are affected by our mindset and attitude about the people and things around us. We must increase our span of knowledge, broadness of ideas and depth of views. In this way, we can present ourselves in a more presentable and attractive way. An ignorant or careless person usually gets less attraction by others.

We see, nowadays, there is more focus on our physical beauty and attractiveness. Media is occupied almost fully by beauty tips, smartness, dresses jewelry and cosmetics. All channels are presenting adds regarding these. They place a larger space in our budgets. 

It is also a fact that good looking people are treated more gently and respectfully. They secure jobs, social acceptance and marital 

Matches too. If selection is based on all these bases, the results will not be definitely positive.  If job is given on this base, the performance is not assured. Especially, in the case of marital matches, it will be short timed happiness. Physical beauty is temporary, and goes not guarantee successful relations. Inner beauty is more durable and provide real happiness.    

The real beauty comes from strong character, honesty, loyalty and sense of responsibility. If a person loses these qualities, how much physically attractive he will be, he cannot be considered a good person. With all these basic qualities, physical beauty can be considered a gift. That must be handled with care and wisdom.

Be Honest in Your Life

Honesty is the best policy, it is a famous saying, and it really works. This characteristic is very valuable for our whole lives, individual, collective, and national. To make our lives go from good to best, honesty is a crucial factor, the key to success.

Honesty is a way or path, that is based on reality, truth, and facts. It is safe, respectable, and straight, and it guarantees success. Honest people are always confident, and brave, and feel free and happy.

It is a very vast term and covers our whole lives and matters. First of all, we must be honest with ourselves. We must be aware of our grey and bright areas, our circumstances, our boundaries and limits, and our required behavior. Our self-perception must be right and based on reality. In this way, we can lead a successful life by choosing positive directions for us and making practical and good decisions.

On the second level, we must be sincere with our related people, including our family members, our friends, co-workers, nneighbors,and other community fellows. We must do what is in the interest of our own and in the favour of all others. With a collective mindset, we can do better as compare to only an individual approach.

On a higher level, we can do something that can be only in the favor of our country and nation. At this stage, we forget our- selves, and the benefit of our relatives and loved ones and think only for others and our people and nation. At this stage, we serve on a very superior level, and forget all other relatively minor ones.

We can find these types of examples all around us, in the case of heavenly people, religious leaders, and national leaders. We see in the history of the world, so many people like that. All profits are the perfect examples of these people, like Hazrat Mohammad PBUH, Hazrat Abraham, the Jesses, and many more. They lead their whole lives for the sake of the guidance of their people. They have to face a lot of unbearable hardships in this way.

Then we see some examples in other people as well, like Mohammad Ali Jinnah, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King Jr., Yasir Arafat. They devoted their lives for the sake of their people in a very positive way. They changed the history and the luck of their people, by sacrificing their own personal lives. These are all the saviors of mankind.

How to Make Your Children Less Involved in Mobile Games?

It is a very common problem faced by today’s parents that their children are spending more of their time in playing on mobiles. Mobiles are very beneficial for getting knowledge and recreation as well, but a balance is a must. Balance is the key to success and can make our lives go from good to best.

The Internet and mobile devices are inventions that are the most used today. Everyone has a mobile in his pocket, despite its quality or price. It has become an inevitable part of our lives. We feel emptiness, in its absence. Its effectiveness depends upon its time of usage, and the purpose and aim of usage.

In the present era, its usage is crucial. In the educational sector, it has replaced libraries. All kinds of data and information are available on net and these are really authentic at the most. Due to joblessness, a vast number of people are working and earning their livings through internet.  It is not only easy and comfortable but in many cases more profitable. Not only that, in household issues, it provides full guidelines, in an easy and smart way, with demonstration. It is really a blessing.

In the case of students, especially small ones, when they are not supposed to use internet in the above spirit, its excessive usage can be negative. They can face:

• Health and eyesight issues

• Sleep disturbances

• Obesity

• Delayed social development

• Depression

We must adapt some strategies to manage its manage it. 

1. Excessive usage of everything is negative. We must make a practical schedule for our children, with their consent, so that they have to follow.

2. We must provide opportunities for physical games and must also participate with them. 

3. Their home-work, examinations must not be compromised in any case. They can use it after getting free.

4. Our bond with children must be very strong. We must give them time in their school and recreational activities.

5. We must supervise their routines and no space for negligence is there.

6. Our communications with our children must be very effective, so that they may share their personal issues with us.

7. They must be aware of their limits regarding time and usage.

8. Our role model plays the most important one. If we present our good examples in front of our children, because they follow more our actions than our sayings.